B is for Body Image

The poll is closed and we have some very interesting responses. Not so black and white after all. Not all the “yes” that adultery is a deal breaker came from the women. Not all the “no’s”

 either. The majority said it depends. Some of the women polled said it depended if it was only for sex. That would not be a deal breaker. Others said it depended if children were involved. Some women stated that if the relationship was relatively new then “yes”, if it occurred within a seasoned relationship then “no”.

One man stated that once the trust is gone so is the relationship. He was the “cheatee” rather than the cheater. He said he tried to make it work, keep the family unit intact but he couldn’t get past the fact that the trust in the relationship was lost forever.  

Another man who answered "depends" said there are worse things that can happen than cheating on your spouse - forgive and move on.  However, he stated, if it involved deeper emotions he would walk away, not wanting to stand in the way.

50 Years ago a cross-cultural study was done and less than 39%

Why do people cheat?  Lack of appreciation?  Lack of communication?  Lack of excitement and spontaneity? Or it just for sex?  I imagine the answer to that depends on whom you poll just as the response to whether adultery is a deal breaker depends on whom you poll.